Introduction: We are all familiar with the prohibition on Shabbat to conduct business transactions. However, there is a less known application of this halacha that one is not allowed to make any acquisition (kinyan) on Shabbat, even if no money is transferred as part of the deal. So taking possession of something that was not yours on Shabbat is problematic and, therefore, there is a general prohibition not to give a gift on Shabbat. The prohibition applies both to the person giving the gift as well as the one receiving it. The situation below will allow us to explore some of the parameters of this halacha. As you will see below, there are various applications of this halacha that can result in some problematic situations, but if one familiarizes himself with the details below, one can easily avoid these prohibitions.
Question: Many shuls have the practice to give a gift to a Bar Mitzvah boy on the Shabbat of his Bar Mitzvah. Is this permissible? Does this not violate the prohibition of giving presents on Shabbat?
Answer: The Mordechai says that it is prohibited to give your friend a gift on Shabbat or Yom Tov unless it is for a mitzvah, such as acquiring a lulav and etrog from your friend (obviously without any need to pay) so you can perform the mitzvah. Rav Ovadia proceeds to quote a number of poskim who all agree with this position.
Based on this, the Magen Avraham questions the ancient practice of giving a gift to a Chatan on the Shabbat before his wedding? The Shulchan Aruch Harav also says this practice is incorrect unless it is a gift of food that is needed or can be eaten on Shabbat. The Sefer Elya Raba says that this practice can be justified as giving a gift to a Chatan can be categorized as a mitzvah of being mesameach chatan v’kallah. Similarly we could say that giving a Bar Mitzvah boy a sefer as a gift can be categorized as a mitzvah as well for supporting his ability to learn Torah. In addition, since he can learn from that sefer on Shabbat, it could be categorized as a for the mitzvah of limud haTorah.
Rav Ovadia suggests another solution could be to advise the Bar Mitzvah boy to have in mind that although he is receiving the gift from the Rabbi, he is not actually acquiring the gift until after Shabbat. (In practice, I have seen Rabbis use the moment to teach and tell the boy that although he is giving him the gift he should not acquire it until after Shabbat.)
Rav Ovadia concludes that based on the above, we can technically justify the practice of the Rabbi giving a Bar Mitzvah boy a present on Shabbat. We can argue that it is a mitzvah in and of itself and the boy can use it to perform the mitzvah of limud haTorah on that Shabbat. However, there is a suggestion that can help avoid the problem all together (that we will use below to help us handle the issue of giving gifts to others on Shabbat as well). There is a halachic principle of zachin l’adam shelo b’fanav - someone can acquire an object on behalf of his friend when it is beneficial to him, even when the friend is not present. Therefore, the Rabbi can give the gift before Shabbat to someone else who can acquire it and make the kinyan on behalf of the Bar Mitzvah boy. This way, the boy actually acquires the gift before Shabbat, avoiding the issue altogether.
To conclude, how can we ever giving gifts to our friends on Shabbat? It is the practice to give gifts to people who host us for a Shabbat meal or perhaps to give someone a birthday (non-muktzvah item) on Shabbat. How can we do this?
- The halachically simplest option is to bring the gift before Shabbat. In practice, this does not always work as we want to give it on Shabbat.
- The next best and totally permissible option is to give the gift before Shabbat to your own family member or friend who can acquire it on behalf the host you intend to give it to on Shabbat.
- If the gift is a food item like a cake or bottle of wine, it is permitted to be given as it is an item that can be eaten together on Shabbat as part of the mitzvah of seudat Shabbat. Ideally, one should attempt to use approach #2 first, but can certainly rely on this if it is not done before Shabbat.
(This summary was based on יחוה דעת חלק ג׳ סימן כא׳)